Maybe we were ridiculed as a child for being unable to do something and we feel that if we ask for assistance we will be laughed at, teased or made fun of. Maybe we were expected to always be perfect when we were growing up, and we feel that admitting that we need help is akin to admitting that we are a failure at whatever it is that we are trying to do. Maybe we are just shy and it is hard for us to find our voice and to reach out to someone. Whatever the case may be, it is worth getting past our fear so that we can offer help to others as well as receive it graciously ourselves. When we are ready to meet someone new to date, to chat with, to begin a romance with, or to simply hang out with, we can get all the help that we need from the world wide web, and we do not have to get up the nerve to ask for it.

We only need summon up the courage to go online and join any one of the many online dating sites, and before we know it, we will be meeting all sorts of new people. When it comes to dating, thanks to the world wide web there is no reason to feel that we must go it alone.

With that said, many of us that have been out of the Dating game for an extended period of time and we feel justifiably terrified at the prospect of going out on a date with someone after such a long time. Many of us may disagree with the whole bicycle premise, after all we have seen people hop back onto their ice skates with all of the confidence in the world, only to end up in a heap at the side of the pond or skating rink, or seen people strap on their water skis and zip out there only to spend most of the trip underwater gasping for breath and desperately trying to hang on while simultaneously signaling to the driver that they are really not having any fun at all.

The good news for us is that the many online personals sites that exist give us the opportunity to ease our way back into the world of dating at our own pace; we do not have to feel rushed or pressured in the slightest as we can set our own pace as we go along. We can chat with the people that we meet for as long as we would like to before we ever consider a face to face meeting with them. We can also politely excuse ourselves if we happen to get a bad feeling from anyone that we are conversing with online. It may not be as easy as jumping on our old ten speed, but dating these days is a lot less scary thanks to the world wide web.

The idea of spit is repulsive to most people, especially women. Men may spit on the ground almost every day of their lives, but that does not mean that they enjoy rolling their hands through the gooey matter and rubbing it all over their body. And yet that is essentially what a lot of men do during sex. Just before they stick their prick into either a vagina or ass, they either hold out their hand and spit into it or let their drool go down onto their penis. Sometimes, they will also get their heads right down there to the orifice in question and simply spit right into it, using their hand to more thoroughly spread their liquid goo across the area. Yes, it certainly sounds very appealing.

Gays are more into the whole spit thing during sex than hetero women, though these women are certainly subjected to it now and then, especially if their partners are into rougher sexual practices. There is definitely something primal about using spit. It makes the whole sex act seem a bit more naughty. Sometimes it is even used innocently, when people realize they have run out of regular lube. And the recipient of the spit is not eating it or anything, so most just go with the flow and let the spit sex act unfold.

These days everyone seems to be in a rush to find that perfect Dating partner. People bring too much anxiety to the scene. Will you find the right person? Will they be what you always dreamed of? Why do things always seem so complicated? These and many other questions plague single people and they lose sight of the fact that online dating and getting to know people should be fun, no dating guide required! If your dates don’t work out the first time, or even the second or third time it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have fun with them! Finding that perfect match shouldn’t be a goal, it should be a journey with a happy ending and a lot of fun times in between. Take the time to relax and enjoy the company of different people and stop putting a premium on some preconceived idea of success.

Too many single people let the idea of perfect sex become a source of worry. Can they perform well enough and achieve that standard that leaves all past, present and future lovers setting the bar based on their perfomance? Why should there be some performance level for sex? Why can’t you just be glad you’re getting some and enjoy it? Why worry about impressing someone all the time? If you really want to impress someone then impress them with your ability to let go and smile sincerely. That is a rarity these days. Just be yourself and enjoy life like a kid. That’s impressive.

Whether the ball that we are concerned about is lurking around in our court, has been dropped on the field, is being juggled in the air, is hosting rich people or men in uniform, or providing us with a good time, we can use the Internet to enhance our experience. The world wide web contains a tremendous amount of resources on every subject in the entire world, and thanks to all of the advances in modern technology, we never ever have to feel uninformed.

Let’s not ignore those other balls that are so important, but that are often only spoken of in hushed tones. We need those too. Sometimes we need them touching our chin as we give their owner a heartfelt blow job. Other times we need to hold them in our hands as we kiss their owner passionately. Still other times we need to feel them slam up against us as we get very handily fucked from behind. No, they don’t get a lot of press, but they are probably the most necessary types of balls in our lives. And the Internet can help us to locate them and make friends with them.

Today, between all of our social networking sites and the constant barrage of information that we face from the media, it is one of the most difficult things imaginable to be able to find and enjoy a few moments of solace in absolute quiet. It seems as though even in a supposedly dead quiet library, there is enough going on to disturb our peace and distract us when we are so desperately trying to concentrate. We have also lost the ability to sit with someone and not talk, so the idea of a nice quiet car or train ride has become a thing of the past.

With a little luck though, there is still one area of our lives in which we have a shot at some degree of quiet, and that is when we are having sex with someone. Yes, there should be some heavy breathing, some moaning, and maybe even a little bit of dirty talk to keep things hot, but in an ideal sexual encounter there will be no conversation whatsoever. Doesn’t that just sound like paradise? Not only do we get laid but we also get to enjoy a little peace and quiet in the bargain.

1. Don’t Be Too Subtle

2. Break Up With the Ex, For Good.
That ex. The one that, if you’re being really honest, still manages to have an inexplicable hold on you. The one who’ll text you out of the blue and throw your whole life in disarray. The one that you’ve been trying (unsuccessfully) to be “just friends” with for years. The one who you inevitably end up talking about to anyone who will listen, even though it’s been a long time now.

You aren’t dating. You shouldn’t waste so much mental energy on that person, and you know it. Break up for good, and move on with your life.

3. Be Nice to the Guy (or Girl!) You Know is in Love With You

Almost every woman on the planet has one: the poor sap who’s always around, always hoping that one day you’ll realize that you’ve been in love with him all along.

When friends point out that he’s totally in love with you, you brush it off and insist you’re just friends. You tell yourself you’re being nice to him. You don’t MEAN to consciously lead him on. (Note the word ‘mean.’)

But sometimes, after a particularly disappointing date or stinging heartbreak or arid dry spot, it’s nice to be able to text or email him something flirty, just to feel special and wanted again. So you keep him around.

Fine if he has other things going on, and you guys have come to a sort of mutual understanding that it’s never going to happen. But if you think there’s any chance that you’re stringing him along, or that he’s waiting for you, you’ve got to let him go.

Better for him to be the perfect boyfriend for someone else, than the occasional ego-boost for you.

4. Say “Yes” to More Dates

Okay, maybe you’re not totally feeling it because, well, sure he’s nice but his bald spot is…really bald and really pointy, and, I dunno, you’re just not instantly sexually attracted to him because he looks like a conehead.

Say yes anyway. Say yes to one date! What, you’re soooo amazing that some guys don’t even get a chance with you?

The guy with Conehead, or the haliotosis, or the weird voice, or slightly alarming number of Maxim magazines for coffee table reading might end up being the best thing that’s ever happened to you. He might! And what’s more, in 2012 you should be opening yourself up to more opportunities for love to find you than shutting the door to them. This means saying yes to more first dates. You can have coffee with anyone for half an hour — it won’t kill you.

5. Listen to Your Friends
Girls who have managed to date a guy for more than 5 consecutive dates sometimes tend to become mighty protective and defensive of their burgeoning relationship. They’ll tentatively ask their friends what they thought of their new beau, but the answer sure as hell better be “He’s great!”

But when a friend seems concerned about an aspect of your relationship, don’t immediately bristle and change the subject. He or she has seen you through relationships before, and has a good idea of what works for you, and what doesn’t, what’s alarming, and what isn’t.

Your friends want to see you happy. If they think a significant other is sort of a jerk to you, or think something is weird, don’t immediately dismiss their opinion.

Take a look at the poster below:

Now although this may seem inappropriate for the holiday season, adult dating statistics have proven that more women have unplanned pregnancies during January and if you end up doing more than kissing under the mistletoe, this Morning After Pill could be very useful to have on you.

However, you don’t need these “jingle pills” if you practice safe sex this Holiday season.  Have some holiday-themed condoms handy and protect that candy cane!

Read the following guidelines if you are looking for a raunchy good time!

1. Spanking –Just go for it! The more passionate the sex is getting, give her or him a hard love tap on the ass.  Trust me, the surprise will be much welcome.

2. Pinning Her Arms Down – Men, when you’re on top, grab both her wrists and pin them behind her head. Make sure your legs are inside hers or you may take a knee to the jobbers. I also like to add in neck nibbling.

3. Dirty Talk – Work in many words because  for some odd reason, there are women who don’t mind (or rather enjoy) being called one of more the following during intercourse:
a. Slut
b. Whore (or ’Ho in certain parts)
c. Dirty
d. Naughty
e. Bad Girl

4. Kamimaze Sex – OK, we made this name up. Women seem to get tingly when they see that stairwell quick-bang in the movie Unfaithful. This is one time when the man isn’t penalized for unloading in under a minute. When she least expects it and still wants it (good luck figuring that one out), shove her up against the wall/staircase, yank down her bottoms, and grind her into the drywall/carpet. You’ll probably cause some brush burns, so have Neosporin handy. NOTE: Please don’t do this at the office, daycare center, or in your kitchen.

5. Role Playing –  Hey, whatever gets your blood pumping. You can play master/servant, maid/butler, coach/player (except in central Pennsylvania), quarterback/cheerleader, priest/confessor, officer/criminal, prom king/prom queen, or bar slut/bar player. Ooh, how about this one: author/reader? Saucy!

Could your love life use some freshening? Bring home lotions, toys, and liquor; mix in a little kink; and postpone your mate’s consideration of trading your boring ass in for a pug, hobby, or more open-minded lover.

Everywhere we turn is pictures of “perfect” holiday celebrations; these pictures are on movies, commercials, television, in stores, etc. In all, there is a lot of pressure to make everything meaningful. It seems like if we are not like “everyone else”, then our relationships are flawed.

Here are some tips to help you get your relationships through the holidays:

Make time for yourself; try not to be so consumed with the stress of the season

Sometimes the anticipation of enjoying a holiday or a holiday event with someone is so strong that if our partner doesn’t respond as we think they should, our pleasure in the event is spoiled. Tying up your expectations too closely with another’s only leads to disappointments. If you need to, do some things on your own – don’t give away your pleasure in things you enjoy to someone else and their moods.

 Remember the holidays can be depressing
Whatever issues, failures and problems you have with your partner, remember that the holiday environment can make the lows much lower than other times of year. There’s enough anxiety and unrealistic expectations at this time of year to squelch even the most loving couple.

Lastly, here are some great communication tips for this time of year:
1. Hug your partner when you say “hello” and “goodbye”. It feels great and makes your partner feel loved.

2. Be polite to each other. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you can be rude.

3. When you ask your partner a question, make eye contact and listen to the answer. Show them that you are attentive and caring.

4. Make a list of your partner’s positive qualities. Share them and tell them why you think that they are true.

5. Respect each other’s private space. Over time, many couples let this slide. Especially during the holiday season when time is limited.

If you are thinking of ending your relationship, wait till the New Year to re-evaluate your situation. You will have a different perspective and may have averted a hasty decision. January represents renewal and rebirth- and that can also mean your relationship.